Asher Witmer

rediscovering Jesus

The God Who Scares Us what should we do with the Holy Spirit?

Many millennials are wanting to understand God’s Spirit better. I think that’s wonderful. But I also think some of us expect our discovery of Him to radically change something about Christianity. And maybe it will. I don’t know. I just know there are many thoughts and ideas about the Holy Spirit, and not all of them seem in-line with Scripture.

But ignoring Him, not facing the possibility of having our perspective of God rattled and reshaped, is not an answer. That only limits our understanding of God, and therefore, our relationship with Him.

So, I’ve been going back to Scripture and trying to understand the Holy Spirit from God’s perspective, not from what I’ve heard and been taught before. As a part of this process, and in helping other discover God at a deeper level, I will write out what I’m finding.

When a Girl Says “No,” Should the Guy Ask Again? a few of my thoughts on dating in a courtship world


Question Submitted: If a man asks permission to date a lady and she says “no,” should he consider asking again?

Theology, Pornography and the Holy Spirit an interview with Frank Reed

Most of the readers on this blog are (or at least come from) “conservative Anabaptist” background. And most of these readers find themselves in dynamic time of life.

Dynamic because there is a lot of motion in the conservative Anabaptist church world today. Deep, unspoken questions people are wanting to find answers to. Few people are as aware and tuned into these questions (even frustrations) as brother Frank Reed. 

Recently, I got to ask Frank some questions about the Anabaptist church world, today. Following is the interview.

Three Sons and Heading Back to School a little update on life

Caedmon Nishan entered this world with a bang! Came at 3:51am, 7 pounds and 9 ounces in his 21 inch stature. Labor lasted about four hours, Teresa breezed right through it. She’s a trooper!

One Ridiculously Simple Way to Start a Relationship anyone can do it, but almost everyone is scared of it


One week before asking Teresa Janae Miller out, I drafted an email to her Dad. Before hitting send, however, I chickened out and waited a few more days.

I was scared! I was afraid of being turned down. Afraid I was doing the wrong thing—that it wasn’t God’s will. Afraid of entering another relationship that would only end in pain. When I finally mustered enough confidence to send it off, I was stunned how easy it was.

I’m not sure we should take dating so seriously. Yes, take finding a future partner seriously, but not so seriously that you’re scared stiff to pursue (or be pursued). Give it a chance. It doesn’t have to work. But finding out if it could, really isn’t that difficult.

Have You Found Freedom in Your Christian Faith? how wanting more isn't enough


How would you describe your experience in the Christian faith? Vibrant, life-giving, transforming, attractive? Or does it feel more shallow, hypocritical, ritualistic, or alienating?

More and more people, today, are becoming disenchanted with denominations. They are weary of the “our-denomination-is-better” mindset, crossing denominational bounds as they look for a fuller sense of truth and faith. They want more than what they experience in church, and whenever anyone wants more, anything else is basically up for grabs.

There is nothing wrong with wanting more. I want more. And I will be concerned the day I wake up not wanting more. But wanting more isn’t enough.

What Happens When My Pastor Sins? an honest look at the raw humanity of people within the church


If your pastor got up in front of the church this coming Sunday and confessed he was gay, what would you do? What would you do if one of your church elders or deacons or small group leaders confessed to having an extra marital affair? Does it throw you for a loop even considering the possibility? Might you struggle to trust them, want their resignation, and feel disillusioned with God?

I don’t mean to make light of sin, and certainly don’t mean to justify sin going on at any level within the church. However, might I suggest that our gut reactions to such an idea exposes the overall response to sin within the church.

How Christmas Isn’t Just about a Savior Jesus came not only to save us from hell, but make us holy as well


Two thousand years ago, when shepherds came and bowed down to a newborn baby boy in Bethlehem, they weren’t bowing to merely a savior; they were bowing to a new way of life.

Christmas has become the time of year we celebrate Jesus, remembering His miraculous birth. But if we’re not careful, Jesus gets relegated to just a savior. He saves us from hell, from eternal damnation. Because of Jesus, we have hope beyond this life, right? We will live with God in Heaven, forever! And that is certainly something worth celebrating!

But it’s not the whole story.

Gifts Grieving People Want from You at Christmas how to care for someone in their grief while everyone else celebrates with joy


For people who are grieving, Christmas is not necessarily a season of joy. If we’re not careful, we can extenuate their grief by how we interact with them. But, before we decide to just give all our grieving friends space and solitude over the holiday, let me share with you three gifts your grieving friends actually do want from you this Christmas season.

Five years ago, my mother was killed in a car accident. December twenty-third is her birthday, so Christmastime serves as a hearty reminder she’s no longer here. When I consider the gifts friends have given me in my grief, three particular kinds of gifts stand out in my mind.

Can a Church Last without Rules? on having an appearance of wisdom


Question Submitted: Can a local church be cohesive, maintain scriptural commands, and be sustained through several generations without rules? There is a saying among psychologists, “What gets rewarded gets repeated.” I have found that to be true in teaching school, parenting, and getting my wife to rub my back. I believe it is true of […]