Asher Witmer

rediscovering Jesus

You really only need to know one thing before dating. date sexually free: lesson number three


God never intended us to find our sense of meaning in marriage.

Our meaning comes from Him, and we experience more of Him in our relationships.  If our identity is wrapped up in who we are dating, or in the fact the we’re no longer single, His Spirit won’t be the one guiding our decisions throughout the courtship.

We’ll be intoxicated by anything that offers to fulfill the void in our hearts for approval and acceptance. That’s a recipe for sexual compromise.

Wanting sex isn’t wrong. date sexually free: lesson number two


Most of my life I viewed my sex drive as something that was bad, it had to be controlled. Whenever I felt aroused I thought it meant I was lusting, and often that was true. But something drastically changed when I discovered my sex drive is good—something God gave me. He has wired me to not only want sex, but to need it.

The fact we desire sex is not the problem. What holds us hostage, however, is lust. When we allow lust into our hearts, it takes control of our sexuality and perverts everything we do.

Lust is what we’re really battling against.

Every relationship is sexual. Make it a healthy one. date sexually free: lesson number one


I heard once that dating was for connecting spiritually, engagement for connecting emotionally, and marriage for connecting physically. It sounded good, and I didn’t think anything of it. At least not until I experienced my own relationship and realized you can’t separate the spiritual, emotional or physical.

We are created as physical beings with a soul and spirit, and all three intertwine with each other. The spirit of a man affects his mind and emotions right along with his body. And his mind and emotions affect his body and spirit together.

Because of that, a couple is getting to know each other spiritually, physically, and emotionally all at the same time.

Redefining Marriage in an Age of Permissiveness what happens when Christians become okay with something less


A well-known Christian author and speaker recently spoke out in favor of gay marriage and homosexual relationships, saying two adults have a right to choose who they want to love, and if they choose to love someone of the same-sex, then the church should help provide marriage support and parenting help. She went on to say that she wants the very best for her gay friends: love, happiness, faithfulness, commitment, and community.

I support her desires for homosexuals. I also want gay people to experience love, happiness, faithfulness, commitment, and community. I agree that the church has not done well in relating with the LGBT community.

But is redefining marriage so they can find those things as they are really the solution? How have we gotten to the place where professing born-again believers value relationships with people above faithfulness in marriage?


Everybody Has a Story to Tell and It’s Not the One They’re Writing when life and God collide


I used to think God wanted me to write a great story with my life, but I’m learning He actually wants me to be a part of His.

Nobody plans to fail. No one counts on having their dreams broken, hopes dashed, or loved ones lost. In our ideal picture of life, everything always goes well. And why not?

We expect great things in life: close friends, happy marriages, connected families, fulfilling jobs, effective ministries. God says he has great plans for us of prosperity and good fortune. Why shouldn’t we aim for greatness?

What we don’t expect is God ruining our story.

Without Adam We Wouldn’t Have Eve calling men to rise up and create an atmosphere of righteousness


If we didn’t have men like Adam, we might not have women like Eve. If Israel didn’t have a king like Ahab, they wouldn’t have had a queen like Jezebel. If America didn’t have a morally weak and selfish man like Clinton, it might not have a power hungry women like Clinton. In the same way, if we didn’t have Trump we might not have Hillary either.

Evil goes hand in hand, and if men want to be called the leaders than we should probably accept the fact that our sin comes first and sets the tone. We can be holy and set a tone of safety, security, and the pursuit of other people’s interests above our own. Or we can be lustful and set a tone of selfishness, pride, and putting ourselves before the rest.

Whatever we are as men we’ll get in return through the world around us.