Asher Witmer

rediscovering Jesus

Please Take My 2017 Reader Survey help me make your reading experience better


In the last year alone, visitors to the blog read more than 150,000 articles. People are responding to what I’ve been writing, saying I put into words what they’re feeling. That this blog is a place where someone isn’t afraid to talk about the deep, unspoken questions they wrestle with.

I praise God I can be a part of His work in this way. My desire is to serve you through the resources of this blog. To do that, I’d like to know more about you. That’s why I created my 2017 Reader Survey.

My Boyfriend Struggles with Porn, What Should I Do? navigating your way through a sexually turbulent relationship


What if you’re dating right now and your guy is looking at porn? What should you do?

I’ve been one of those addicted to pornography. I am also one who is free, today. Telling my wife-to-be the story of failure was the most difficult thing I’ve done. Yet, it was also really healing.

So, in an effort to help couples navigate their own relational turbulence, especially when it involves sexual sin, here are a few things I suggest you do if your man, the guy you deeply care about, is hooked on porn.

When You’ve Messed Up Your Life with Porn finding hope in the middle of deep shame


I was thirteen when I first looked up pornography. There was a three-day period when I didn’t care whether it was right or wrong—I fully indulged. Calculating times when I knew people wouldn’t be around, planning my strategy for searching, worshiping, and retreating.

But then I got caught. And once I knew I couldn’t get away with it, when I realized how violating my “acts of worship” were, I felt engulfed by shame.

And the winner of the giveaway is…….. one lucky commenter gets their own FREE copy of Anything But Simple


Well folks, it sure has been fun running a giveaway! I decided from now on, that’s all I’m blogging about. I got more comments than I ever have before. 😮

So, maybe I’m just messing with you. BUT, there is one special person who won’t have to fork out $10.15 to read Luci Miller’s Anything But Simple this fall. And that person is….. *drum roll please*…… 

Anything But Simple a book review (and giveaway) of Lucinda Miller’s life as a Mennonite


Plainspoken is a project focused on giving “plain people” (Amish, Hutterite, Mennonite) their own voice. Many novels have been written about “plain people”—Amish love tales, to be specific. But few of them actually depict the reality of life for those who come from “plain” backgrounds. Luci’s book is a personal memoir of her life as a Mennonite. So, upon her request, following is my review of Anything But Simple.

9 Ways You Accidentally Make Your Husband Feel Little how you tear him down without saying a word

I suppose it is only fair, after writing about how we men make our wives feel ugly, that I address how women make their husbands feel little. Not because I want to hit women over the head with how they’re failing us husbands. Rather, just as women can feel ugly from small gestures on our part, we sometimes feel little by seemingly innocent actions from them.

In my last post, I talked about nine ways husbands accidentally make their wives feel ugly. Here I’ll share nine ways wives accidentally make their husbands feel little. As a lady wants to feel beautiful and wanted, a man wants to feel capable and needed. These are nine subtle ways wives undermine their husbands.

9 Ways You Accidentally Make Your Wife Feel Ugly how you tear her down without saying a word


Before getting married, I thought being a good husband was about “being ahead of the curve.” In an effort to do so, I devoured as many books on marriage and women as I could possibly find. And I learned a lot!

But there were a many things I never learned about in any of those books. One things was the many ways I accidentally make my wife feel ugly. Maybe one could change the word ugly for small or unwanted, but the point is after five years of marriage I am slowly waking up to the ways I unwittingly make my wife feel like mush.