Pillar three · Love well
Loving and discipling others well.
Selflessly seeking another’s wellbeing through kindness, empathy, and truth, treating them with the same grace and care that God extends to us.
Theology is the root. Emotional health is the soil. But love is the fruit. This isn’t about agreeing with everyone. It means you hold truth and grace together. You speak honestly. You listen deeply. You see the person across from you as someone made in the image of God.
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- Awareness Fatigue, Abuse, and the Courage to InvestigateSeptember 2026When someone raises a concern, why do we so often turn on the person instead? On abuse, cover-up, a BMA petition, and…
- When the One Who Raises Their Hand Becomes the ProblemSeptember 2026When someone names abuse in the church, why do we turn on them? A word to church leaders on curiosity, trauma-informed care,…
- Don’t Forget About Us: A Nurse’s Story from UkraineSeptember 2026AI promised to save you time and remove your toil. It hasn't. A conversation on writing, work, and using AI without losing…
- A Wife Should Never Be Pushed Into SexAugust 2026Pressuring a wife into sex misreads sexual sin and centers self, not love. Real intimacy is bigger than sex, and God woos…
- AI, Toil, and Why We Were Made to Work | A Conversation with Stuart MulletAugust 2026AI promised to save you time and remove your toil. It hasn't. A conversation on writing, work, and using AI without losing…
- I Grew Up Hard Complementarian. Then I Opened Genesis, Again.July 2026I grew up hard complementarian. Then Bible college started me in Genesis, and I ran into a view of women I'd never…
- Is It Sinful to Use “Transgender Pronouns”?January 2024Rosaria Butterfield has recently "repented" from using what she calls, "transgender pronouns." Why is she doing that? Should you feel the same…
- Yes, You Are Prejudiced.January 2024Christians need to stop being offended by the idea that they could be prejudiced. Everyone is prejudiced, and we discover this dark…
- When Church Doesn’t WorkJanuary 2024Now that I’m in my thirties and a part of a church leadership team myself, I can identify a number of times…
- Greta Gerwig’s Brilliantly Contextualized Analysis of Gender RolesJanuary 2024Greta Gerwig's Barbie movie sparked a diverse array of responses, reflecting the deeply divided perspectives within society and the Christian church. From…
- Christianity and Gender Identity: Navigating Pronouns with Love and UnderstandingSeptember 2023While there are a couple of situations we do not recommend this, my wife and I have chosen the posture of pronoun…
- Homosexuality and the Conservative Mennonite ChurchMay 2023The Mennonite church (my background) has two extremes when it comes to homosexuality.
- Committed Christian, Yet Undeniably GayMay 2023I was drawn into Greg's story through his unashamed posture in talking about being a gay Christian and deeply committed to Jesus…
- Responding to Concerns about Sheila Wray GregoireMay 2023Here is my final review of The Great Sex Rescue. In this video, I respond to some of the concerns people have…
- “How Do I Know I’ve Met ‘The One’?”May 2023Growing up as a conservative Anabaptist, one of the common questions we discussed as young adults was, “How do you know when…
- 5 Signs You’re Not Having Sexually Healthy RomanceMay 2023At the core of sexually healthy romance is connectedness with body and soul as a couple. Here are five signs your romance…
- Date Sexually FreeApril 2023The following article is an excerpt of my free eBook, Date Sexually Free. My wife and I wish we had learned these…
- How Might “Duty Sex” Destroy Marriages?April 2023Continuing our review of The Great Sex Rescue, we're going to look at libido, sexless marriages, and sex as a transaction (i.e.…
- Does Christian Sex Advice Promote Unhealthy Sexual Intimacy?April 2023I've noticed a few common threads among books giving advice that hinders healthy sexual intimacy: 1. They tend to talk about sex…
- “How should we handle theological differences in church?”April 2023Let me answer this question by making three observations and then drawing three conclusions about how to handle theological differences in church.
- Do Husbands Let Their Wives Say “No” to Sex?March 2023Continuing our review of the Great Sex Rescue, we look at ways husbands sometimes use their wives and refuse to let them…
- What Are the Lies We’ve Been Taught about Sex?February 2023In this video, I discuss the first three chapters that address some of the lies Christians have been taught about sex.
- People Are Friendlier Than the Internet PortraysFebruary 2023Most people want to be liked by others, and that desire to be liked leads us to put on a smile or…
- Context Matters If You Want to Understand Issues TodayFebruary 2023If we're going to understand each other, we need to understand that everyone works from a particular context and we need to…
- Don’t Let Tribalism Blind You to the Fact That Issues Are RealDecember 2022We are affected by the tribalism so prevalent in the culture at large. Don't let it blind you to the fact that…
- What Is a “Conservative”?December 2022When you think of conservative versus liberal, what are we referring to? When we speak in belittling, derogatory ways of liberals, who…
- CRT Doesn’t Solve Racism. What Does? July 2022If you are sitting here saying “CRT is racist” or “CRT doesn’t solve racism,” I’m not going to waste much time arguing…
- Why Church Matters Even When Being a Part of One Causes PainJuly 2022Through the pain and toil of learning to love and be loved, we experience again the goodness of God. That's why church…
- A Bigger Threat to Christianity Than CRTMay 2022We need to first realize there was an intentional push from certain activists to make CRT into the catchall for anything negative…
- Racial Justice Is to Democrats What Abortion Is to Republicans: a Wedge IssueMay 2022When it comes to racial justice, let’s be willing to acknowledge the inadequacies of political parties to bring about true justice.
- When Should I Talk with My Children about Sex?May 2022Many guys got into sex before ever been told about sexuality and how their body works. This is why I already talk…
- How We Gaslight to Condemn CRTFebruary 2022That CRT is this big, dangerous monster subtly deceiving people all over the place, even those within the church, is an example…
- Mandated Equality Will Not End WellFebruary 2022Integration should have helped develop racial equality in education, yet even after Brown v. Board, inequality along racial lines within academia continued.
- Where Voddie Baucham Gets It WrongDecember 2021Voddie Baucham has been one of the most prominent voices speaking out against CRT as anti "biblical justice," but he gets some…
- Where Voddie Baucham Gets It RightDecember 2021Voddie Baucham has been one of the most prominent voices speaking out against Christians using Critical Race Theory (CRT) as a framework…
- Why We Need to Talk about Power When Talking about RacismDecember 2021We need to talk about power when talking about racism because the reality is that white Christians ultimately get their way. At…
- “How Come There’s No ‘Asian’ Privilege?”November 2021People tend to bring up the Asian American experience as a way of saying, “See, anyone who just puts their mind to…
- The Responsibility White Christians Have with Their PrivilegeNovember 2021Don’t be scared of the term “white privilege.” Acknowledge it. Steward it according to the way God would have you steward any…
- Sin and Critical Race TheoryNovember 2021Let’s let go of CRT. We still have the sin of racial prejudice to deal with. And this prejudice doesn’t go away.
- Critical Race Theory: Acknowledging the ProblemOctober 2021Our concerns for dangerous aspects of CRT should not keep us from acknowledging the problem of racial injustice and the solution the…
- Don’t Stand on CRT; Walk with PeopleOctober 2021If we’re going to insist the problems CRT addresses don’t actually exist we better make sure no one actually experiences the problems.
- A Christian Thinks about CRT: 3 ClarificationsOctober 2021Our unity is not in how we perceive the world or grapple with problems. Our unity is in Jesus Christ and the…
- Is It True That Women “Most Desire” Love?October 2021Framing “love” as a desire and “respect” as a need positions readers in a posture to diminish “love” and prioritize “respect.”
- “How Should Christians Process Critical Race Theory?”October 2021Critical Race Theory is the big boogey man in Christian circles today, but many facets tend to get missed in conversations about…
- Why I Sign My Comments “Grace and Peace”October 2021Cynicism, sarcasm, mockery, strife, and unrest have for too long described the average Christian discourse on social media. Don’t you think it’s…
- A Man’s Sexual Needs Are Not Reasons for a Wife to Continue in Abuse (Submission and Respect pt. 3)October 2021When Paul tells couples to give their spouses their sexual rights in 1 Corinthians 7 he is not talking about enduring abusive…
- Is It True That Men “Desperately Need” Respect?October 2021Men need respect as much as anyone needs respect. But we should define respect as treating someone with the dignity of being…
- Wives Can Win Unbelieving Husbands, Not Necessarily Abusive Ones (Submission and Respect pt. 2)September 2021Peter's instructions in 1Pet. 3 are not about how to handle abusive situations, but about a compelling vision for staying faithful to…
- It’s Time Christians Stopped Listening to LiesSeptember 2021We live in a time where people are taking action on things they don’t know are true for sure, and it's tearing…
- Submission and Respect in the Context of Abuse (pt. 1)September 2021"What should submission and respect look like in the context of abuse according to biblical theology?"
- Remembering 9/11 and the Effect It Has Had on the Christian Church in AmericaSeptember 2021Perhaps we did not realize it at the time, but 9/11 further solidified Western Christianity in its nationalistic affection.
- I Was Wrong about RacismMay 2021After spending the better part of the last year addressing racism, I have realized I was wrong about some things concerning this…
- How My Past Porn Addiction Impacted My MarriageMay 2021A daughter or friend is currently dating someone who has confessed to struggling with porn, and you are seeking wisdom in how…
- Some Guidance on COVID VaccinesMay 2021ViewPoint pulled together a group of medical experts alongside pastors and other leaders to address vaccines and the complexities involved with them.
- A Plea for Those Feeling Alone in ChurchMay 2021Many folks feel alone in church. We may not have them very long if we don’t repent and tear down this wall…
- What Ravi’s Fall Tells Us about How We Handle Brokenness in the ChurchApril 2021Ravi once warned of Satan's lie suggesting we “deserve” certain pleasures for serving God.
- Ask Me Anything: Are We Accountable for What We Share Online?April 2021Living with integrity begins and ends with ourselves, individually. Do we practice integrity at every level?
- Getting to the Bottom of Things in the Middle of a Reality WarApril 2021There are true facts and there are untrue facts, but there are always ways to verify claims. There are ways to verify…
- Everyday Justice: a Patreon ReviewApril 2021In this video, I review Julie Clawson's book, Everyday Justice, and share how I am personally applying what I learned from it.
- Is Biden’s “Unity” True, Biblical Unity?February 2021Because humanity has chosen to pursue godlike status of its own whenever given the chance, a unified community of humans is actually…
- Anabaptist ExceptionalismFebruary 2021Why do so many Anabaptists act as if they shouldn't have to obey state requirements regarding COVID-19 regulations?
- How We Remember History MattersFebruary 2021As Christians, we believe the Gospel is for all humans. Do we remember history in a way that acknowledges the history of…
- Can a Presidential Election Really Be a “Battle Between Good and Evil”?January 2021What are we to make of the declarations that this election cycle was a “battle between good and evil”? According to such…
- Has the Religious Right Helped or Hindered the Advancement of Christian Values in America?January 2021We have not simply lost an array of mixed perspectives; we have lost any distinction between the evangelical Christian faith and Republican…
- This Is a Moment for Empathy with the Black Community, Not for Having an Opinion about RacismJanuary 2021Racism is a real-life experience that brothers and sisters of color have. Opinions ought to derive from empathy and be formed by…
- When Tension Is High, Here’s How You Can Make the Most of Your Time with FamilyNovember 2020There’s nothing like the dinner table to bring out the best and the worst in family. And after a year of tension,…
- 5 Reasons Every Church Needs to Talk about Racial Issues (even when they’re not directly affected)November 2020Almost everyone in America is talking about racial issues this year. Are you as a church?
- Is Mixed Swimming Okay?November 2020Invariably someone asks me, "Is mixed swimming among youth okay?" Here are a few thoughts along with a discussion on the nature…
- A Review & Commentary of The Color of Compromise by Jemar TisbyNovember 2020I give a rundown of each chapter and the main thrust of the book, then respond to (1) why I think everyone…
- Thinking Through the Black Lives Matter MovementOctober 2020Ever since I used the hashtag #blacklivesmatter a couple of months ago on Facebook, people have believed I support the controversial Black…
- Ask Me Anything: “What Is Racism?”September 2020People frequently ask, “What is racism” or “how do you define racism?” In this article, I’m going to respond to this question…
- Another Black Man Has Been ShotAugust 2020Another incident has happened that communicates to the black community their lives don’t matter, and the rest of us are nowhere closer…
- We’re Still Missing the Point of “I Can’t Breathe”June 2020Until we’re broken over racial injustice to the point where we spend time on our knees weeping over it, until we can…
- Dear Church, Please Don’t Deflect Responsibility for Racial JusticeMay 2020I hope we don’t make the mistake of thinking that because the oppressed responded by rioting we as the church don’t need…
- It’s Time for Whites to GrieveMay 2020Can we pause a moment and simply hear the cries of the people? Can we lay aside excuses for deflecting ownership of…
- Christians In Pandemic: 3 Critical Morality Issues We’ve Faced So FarMay 2020For those of us using social media during this time, we need to remember that if we make our allegiance with Jesus…
- It’s Okay to Enjoy Valentine’s DayFebruary 2020At the end of the day, I think what we are all looking for is verbal recognition that we matter, that just…
- The Explosion of Politics and Faith in 2019 AmericaDecember 2019These issues have always been difficult to discuss. But when you add the ability for everyone to build their own platform and…
- You Don’t Know How to Write—Stop Using Social Media to Wave Your TongueDecember 2019The limitations of written language are not excuses for coming across as rude. They are reasons to respect the medium and do…
- Everything That Frustrates Me about the Anabaptist TraditionJune 2019There is a deep stirring among many today who have grown up in conservative Anabaptist churches. I write this series to help…
- When Christian Aid Ministries Made News as a Sex ScandalJune 2019I knew it was only a matter of time until this issue hit on a much larger scene then it has until…
- An Open Letter to My Generation of Conservative Anabaptists: IntroductionMay 2019The main thing people tell me is that I put to words what they feel. I’m grateful people are finding voice for…
- Why Black History Needs to Be Remembered More Than Just One Month of The YearMarch 2019A few weeks ago, I sat down with my aunt over Skype and we talked about race, black history, what it's like…
- 5 Hidden Indicators You Have Been Born Into AdvantageMarch 2019Actually, I believe every race has advantage when that race is most dominant. It’s a reality that just kind of is, and…
- 5 Remarkable Benefits Black Christians Give to the ChurchFebruary 2019Most of us don’t consider ourselves racist. But one way we accidentally express racism is by not recognizing or appreciating the benefits…
- Do Valentine’s Celebrations Help or Hinder the Church?February 2019As a married person, dating person, or single person, Valentine’s Day can help each of us remember the love we all long…
- The Most Important Thing You Can Do to Prepare Yourself for LoveFebruary 2019Today, as I look back on the years I desperately wanted a Valentine, but didn’t have one, I wish someone had told…
- Discipleship isn’t about getting people to see the way we do, it’s about embodying the gospel with each other.February 2019When you have friends or family making drastic changes and you feel panic or want to change with them, before doing or…
- What Do I Do When I’m Caught in the Middle of Conflict?February 2019It’s sad whenever we are caught in the middle of conflict. I’m not entirely sure I always know what to do. But…
- Christians don’t fight over what Jesus said; they fight over what Jesus didn’t say.February 2019What if it’s okay to get the things that weren’t clearly addressed wrong? What if God isn’t expecting us to know all…
- People follow relationships; not compelling beliefs.February 2019As I listen to story after story, I realize the church has a crisis of relationships—we have a crisis of connection. We…
- When we are looking for “life,” what do we mean?December 2018What if the feelings and tensions we feel at the surface—too focused on externals, not allowed to use instruments, too robotic, not…
- When people walk away from something, it begs the question “Why?”December 2018When I listen to those who are leaving, I hear of young people whose parents never allowed them to question what the…
- We all begin somewhere, sometimes it’s at church.December 2018Each of us begin life somewhere. I don't mean we begin life in the womb--I mean we become aware of our surroundings…
- Dear Church, Please Stop Idolizing MarriageSeptember 2018Love is not sex. If we believe the gospel, those we are united with in Christ have a deeper familial connection to…
- Dear Church, Please Stop Isolating SinglesSeptember 2018I've noticed the church tends to isolate singles by giving married people more voice in decisions--even when they're younger than some others--and…
- “What Should I Do When I See My Parents Struggling in Their Marriage?”September 2018Starting this month, Basic Level members are now able to submit questions and access one most a month in which I will…
- How Trump Exposed the Generational Gap Between Millennials and Their ParentsAugust 2018There’s a gap in how millennials view the world and how their parents view the world, and nothing has exposed that gap…
- Church: a community of broken people growing togetherAugust 2018We have been invited into a movement of people coming from diverse types of backgrounds and ethnicities. We’ve been called to join…
- Children, Obedience, and Mission Field #1July 2018Someone recently submitted the question: “What is your view on child training?” Here's my response...
- How Can Anabaptists Spread the Gospel without Making Others Feel They Need to Become Like Them?July 2018How can Anabaptists spread the gospel of Christ without making others think they need to become like us? Should their new disciples…
- “Should Christians draw a line of fellowship?”July 2018“Where do we draw the line of fellowship with those who say they believe in Jesus but practice and teach things different…
- Why Most Churches Fail to Make DisciplesJuly 2018I stood there dumbfounded. I didn’t know what to say. These dear kids had been through far too much in their young…
- Americanism, Immigration, and a Low View of the GospelJuly 2018While Americans celebrate two hundred and forty-two years of independence and freedom today, thousands of immigrants are being held in “immigration detention.”…
- Why I Believe Anabaptists Have Something to Offer the WorldJune 2018Each of us has a story shaping who we are and what we believe. When I observe Anabaptist young people, I sense…
- Should a Divorced and Remarried Couple Really Separate When They Join My Church?May 2018If you haven't already, it's only a matter of time until your church faces the question, "Should a divorced and remarried couple…
- When Is Preserving Marriage Enabling Abuse?May 2018When is preserving marriage enabling abuse? Is all divorce sin? Does "turning the other cheek" apply to victims of domestic violence? All…
- How to Know You Are in a Good ChurchMarch 2018Have we made church more complicated than it needs to be? On one hand, we want a church full of life, one…
- 10 Bold Predictions about the Millennial Generation of AnabaptistsMarch 2018The generation before us laid the groundwork for rethinking the way we do church—the way we do life, really. Because of our…
- Millennials, Community, and Judging One AnotherMarch 2018Question Submitted: Where do we separate judging from judging? That was not a typo. Proverbs talks about "iron sharpening iron" and yet…
- When a Girl Says “No,” Should the Guy Ever Ask Again?February 2018Question Submitted: If a man asks permission to date a lady and she says "no," should he consider asking again?
- One Ridiculously Simple Way to Start a RelationshipJanuary 2018Struggling to start meaningful relationships? One simple, honest shift can change how you connect with people—without pressure, scripts, or pretending.
- What Happens When My Pastor Sins?January 2018If your pastor got up in front of the church this coming Sunday and confessed he was gay, what would you do?…
- Gifts Grieving People Want from You at ChristmasDecember 2017For people who are grieving, Christmas is not necessarily a season of joy. If we’re not careful, we can extenuate their grief…
- Can a Church Last without Rules?December 2017Question Submitted: Can a local church be cohesive, maintain scriptural commands, and be sustained through several generations without rules? There is a…
- Dropping Denominationalism and Rediscovering JesusDecember 2017Throughout this whole series we’ve been looking at the question “What’s the big deal about being Mennonite?” This whole discussion surfaces primarily…
- What Are Mennonite Millennials Looking For?December 2017If I were to ask you what you are looking for in a church, would you know? If I were to ask…
- When People Leave the Mennonite ChurchDecember 2017Most people who have commented on this series so far have strong opinions one way or the other. There is a wide…
- Waking Up MennoniteDecember 2017Everyone spoke in hushed tones. Mom cried silently, dabbing her eyes with a Kleenex. What was going on? Moments before, I sat…
- How the Anabaptist Church Is ChangingNovember 2017Question Submitted: When did a passionate movement about believer’s baptism and separation from church and state (and eventually pacifism) become a movement…
- Communication, Sex and Finances—Surprise, Surprise!November 2017Marriage has been incredible, really. I could not be any more blessed than I am with such a beautiful, godly wife. But…
- When You Need to Define Your RelationshipNovember 2017What if you find yourself in a relationship where you both connect, it seems as though you both like each other, but…
- A Hypothesis of Anabaptist DepreciationNovember 2017Question Submitted: why is it that those who seem to be so passionate about grace, and serving Jesus radically are losing what…
- My Boyfriend Struggles with Porn, What Should I Do?October 2017What if you’re dating right now and your guy is looking at porn? What should you do? I’ve been one of those…
- 9 Ways You Accidentally Make Your Husband Feel LittleOctober 2017I suppose it is only fair, after writing about how we men make our wives feel ugly, that I address how women…
- 9 Ways You Accidentally Make Your Wife Feel UglyOctober 2017Before getting married, I thought being a good husband was about “being ahead of the curve.” In an effort to do so,…
- What I Love about PastorsSeptember 2017A pastor is someone who shepherds people in the way of Truth. This includes caring for people, preaching the Word, confronting sin,…
- What I Love about the ChurchSeptember 2017Today, we know the church primarily as either a building or a group of people gathered together around a common set of…
- Racism in Church (how to tell if it exists)September 2017Are you aware of the racism in your church? “Now wait a minute,” you may say. “There’s no racism in our church.”…
- Racism Is Not a Social IssueSeptember 2017Recently, I had a conversation with a friend who is black and lives in the south. He told me racism is not a…
- What Charlottesville Can Teach Christians about RacismAugust 2017If you are a disciple of Jesus Christ and you live in America, what happened in Charlottesville this past weekend ought to…
- How to Grieve with People Who Have Lost a Loved-OneJuly 2017Have you ever felt unsure of what to do as you watched a friend grieve after losing a loved-one? Here are a…
- Living Vibrantly Alive in a World of BrokennessMarch 2017Thanks again for all the feedback you’ve been giving after the first two posts! But what about when your church requires extra-biblical…
- How to Gain a Voice with Your PastorMarch 2017Thanks so much for your feedback after my last post! Many of my readers feel held back by their church. They want…
- How to Overcome Frustrations with Church and Live Vibrant for ChristMarch 2017Do you face frustrations with church? I used to think it was my church holding me back from being a better Christian.…
- The Stuff of IntimacyFebruary 2017In my last post, I said we can live without sex, but not without intimacy. Having a great sex partner is not…
- You Can Live Without Sex, But Not Without IntimacyFebruary 2017Can I tell you a secret? Having a great sex partner is not the key to sexual gratification. Finding the most beautiful…
- When Refugees Can’t Come, We Must Go to ThemFebruary 2017And now we come to the current problem in the refugee crisis. Refugees can’t come to America. Not now, at least. If…
- When Refugees Come, We Must Greet ThemFebruary 2017I do not believe you can be a Christian and not accept refugees. If we haven't before, now is the time to…
- What You Need to Know about Faith, the Government, and RefugeesFebruary 2017I find it interesting how many people thought I was talking about Trump and his ban on refugees when I asked the…
- What Will Happen If We Don’t Accept Refugees (and what could happen if we do)February 2017There are more refugees in the world today than any other time since WW2, yet our President has administered an executive order…
- Can You Be a Christian and Not Accept Refugees?February 2017Without adding to the meaningless noise of opinions on the current refugee crisis, in this post I want to wrestle with some…
- Plexus, modesty and other topics too dangerous to talk aboutJanuary 2017Have you ever read one of my posts that left you asking more questions than before, or left you wishing I would…
- What Happens in Church When Christians Hide Their FailuresDecember 2016Our churches have become too perfect for handling messy people of the world. The worst part of it is that at the…
- What You Need to Know about Romance before Getting MarriedDecember 2016Romance, the way we perceive it at first, like the ecstatic feeling of affection on the first date, or the hot sparks…
- 5 Reasons You Need to Understand the Role of Affection in CourtshipDecember 2016As you may have observed, this month I am going through the top 10 most-read posts of the year. Number eight is…
- Making Right the Failures of Our PastDecember 2016Each generation has to find their place in history. For one, morality may be the trump struggle they face. For another, it may…
- Why My Heritage Matters to MeDecember 2016On this blog I like to look at issues that people don't normally feel comfortable talking about publicly--the white elephant issues in…
- Without Adam We Wouldn’t Have EveNovember 2016If we didn’t have men like Adam, we might not have women like Eve. If Israel didn’t have a king like Ahab,…
- 7 Powerful Principles for Taking Your Pastor UnderOctober 2016October is pastor’s appreciation month, the time of year everyone lays down their agitated opinions of leadership and pretend to actually like…
- Nonconformity: A Dangerous AlternativeSeptember 2016Until our relationships accurately represent Christ, our doctrines will always be held in suspect. Not everyone is rebellious, wanting to do their…
- Radical Love: how you can tell a true Christian from a fake oneSeptember 2016If God did create, then His plan for my life is the plan that is most fulfilling. Because I am born with…
- What This Generation of Anabaptists Really NeedsAugust 2016I’m speaking specifically to Anabaptist churches. Not because they are worse than others and not because they are better. I speak to…
- What This Generation of Anabaptists Really WantAugust 2016There is a lot of uncertainty in Christianity today, especially among the younger generation. Church is frustrating, whether you come from a…
- The New ConservativeAugust 2016We like to throw around the labels conservative and liberal as if they’re two different camps of people. But what does it…
- We Have a Courtship DilemmaAugust 2016As I listen to other people in my generation I hear an increasing frustration with our courtship model. This seems to be…
- What to Focus on When You Feel Held Back by Your ChurchJuly 2016What if it is possible to move through frustrations with church and live vibrantly for Christ? What if there was a way…
- 3 Kinds of Millennial ChristiansJuly 2016In the past number of years, I have noticed there are primarily three kinds of millennial Christians who discover weaknesses in their…
- Making Sure Your Marriage Ends WellJune 2016I found it easy to invest in our relationship when Teresa and I were dating, but once we got married, it became…
- Young Families in DangerJune 2016Are you scared to take your young family into missions? People usually go into missions as singles or young couples. When the kids…
- 12 Symptoms of Religious PoliticsJune 2016The biggest turnoff to people about the Christian church is the politics that take place when it becomes institutionalized. My generation is…
- When Children Become Well-Behaved JerksJune 2016Children raised without the grace of God become well-behaved jerks. When I was still at home and people would visit and compliment…
- How to Know She’ll Say “Yes!”May 2016“You just know when it’s right.” That’s what everyone says when asked how to know when you’ve met the right person to marry. Sometimes, it…
- Stop Criticizing Your Church and Start Creating ChangeApril 2016Anyone can point out faults or critique the church and how we’re doing ministry. But we as Christians are called to a…
- What Plexus Exposes about the American ChurchApril 2016It’s not a new discussion. Ever since it hit the market, there’s been tense controversy over it. So why would I dare waste…
- No Broken People AllowedApril 2016Within the Christian culture, we don’t do well at caring for broken people, especially in a church mainly filled with multigenerational believers.…
- 10 Books That Helped Me Better Understand MarriageFebruary 2016Before I got married, I read as much as I could about marriage and relationships. That’s typical of how we humans do…
- 6 Powerful Principles for Understanding the Role of Affection in CourtshipFebruary 2016I pulled in the driveway, parked the car, and shut off the engine. What an incredible night! We had eaten Subway (Teresa’s…
- Why Romance Doesn’t LastFebruary 2016“Romance doesn’t work.” At least that’s what I told myself on January 12, 2013. Two months after our wedding. We have a…
- 3 Reasons American Christians Don’t Want Syrian Refugees (and what to do about it)November 2015Five times a day, the descendants of Ishmael cry before Lord. And God hears it. God hears their cry and calls us,…
- When You’re Tired of Your ChurchOctober 2015Is it ever wrong to call it quits on your church? My generation is hungry for authenticity and spiritual life. It often…
- The Secret to Experiencing Meaningful RelationshipsOctober 2015What if relationships weren’t meant to be about getting somewhere, but enjoying the journey? Recently, my wife and I had a little…
- A Better Way to Solve Gun ViolenceOctober 2015Another shooting happened this past week that directly targeted Christians. While most Christians seem primarily worried about the government restricting their use of…
- “Us” vs. “Them”: the real problem with Christian denominationsSeptember 2015I have remarkable friends. Remarkable because they are intelligent, good-looking, serve people, love God, and seem to get a kick out of…
- An Anabaptist New York Times BestsellerAugust 2015What would it be like to walk into Walmart and be able to buy a music CD from a girl wearing a…
- 5 Ways My Son Teaches Me How to Be a Better DadAugust 2015Two years ago today, my son popped into open air after sixteen hours of labor. What a thrilling moment! And relieving for my…
- Is Physical Touch in Courtship Wrong?July 2015What if everything you’ve thought about touch in courtship is incorrect, or at least incomplete? Is it okay to have physical touch with…
- 11 Simple Values I Appreciate from My Anabaptist HeritageJuly 2015Heritage is powerful. God saved Lot because of his family heritage through Abraham. If it wasn’t for Abraham’s intercession, Lot would have…
- Every Man Should Develop This Quality to Prepare for LeadershipJune 2015Sunday is Father’s Day and I can’t help but think about lessons Dad has taught me. Particularly about leadership. Dad’s been a…
- 10 Sure-Fire Ways to Ruin Emotional Intimacy with Your WifeJune 2015Teresa and I have had a few fights. We’ve never thrown things at each other. Just words. Actually, it surprised me how…
- Why I’m Mennonite (and why that’s not the point)May 2015I took a risk in asking some questions last week about Mennonite distinctives. I framed the questions so they would be probing,…
- Worn-Out Parents Like to Hear This Important TruthApril 2015I used to think that to develop holiness you need to develop good spiritual disciplines. But when I got married and started…
- What I Wish I Knew before Pursuing a GirlFebruary 2015Since it's that time of year, why don't we talk about love and relationships? There are a few things I discovered since getting married…
- What You Mean to Those Who WatchJanuary 2015I caught my son looking at me the other day. I was guilty. I knew it, but I’m not sure he did.…
- 3 Unrealistic Expectations I Had of ParentingJanuary 2015One of my greatest joys in life is parenting. I love my sons. I love working with my wife to raise our…
- What I Learned about Discipleship From 18 Months on Drew StreetDecember 2014I think the church in general misunderstands discipleship. We like programs where we go out and invite people to come to our…
- Love, Hate, and the Sacred MarriageNovember 2014Marriage is intense! The overpowering sensations of finally marrying the lady you love is enough to make the most pragmatic guy lose his…
- 2 Things You Don’t Know about Missionary KidsSeptember 2014Perhaps you get uneasy when anyone starts talking about missions and supporting missionaries. People place guilt on you for not giving more…
- Ugly MinistryAugust 2014I had my requirements. Often, I realize I still do. Something heroic. I was going to save many souls—win a people group…
- 3 Reasons Your Church Won’t Be Any Different Twenty Years from NowJuly 2014Many people long for more “life” in their church. It’s not necessarily a new desire. I think God puts a desire within each…
- Yolo, Shit and Snap–why they don’t gain you influenceJuly 2014Engaging unchurched people is often difficult to do. We churched people use different lingo and different jokes. It’s hard to know how…
- If You Think Marriage Is An End, Then You’ll End-up FrustratedDecember 2013Marriage is exciting! Raising a family is wonderful. But is it the end? Now that I’m married and having children, am I…
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- Why Giving Money to the Poor Often Makes Things Worse | Joe KuepferJuly 2026
- What Leaders Owe the People They LeadApril 2026
- Jesus Didn’t Find Disciples. He Made Them.March 2026
- What 10 Years Teaching Underserved Kids Has Taught Carita About the GospelFebruary 2026
- Beyond the Headlines: A First-Hand Account of the Minneapolis Immigration CrisisFebruary 2026
- Why I’m Rooting My Work in These Three Things: Theology, Emotional Health, and LoveDecember 2025
- The Church Is Not As Bad Off As We May ThinkNovember 2023
- A Conversation about Parenting, Women’s Roles in the Church & Participation in Broken Systems with Dorcas SmuckerSeptember 2023
- Responding to Questions about Spanking, Same-Sex Attraction, and Sheila Wray GregoireJune 2023
- Laurie Krieg on What Her Mixed-Orientation Marriage Has Taught Her about Love and the GospelMay 2023
- Spanking As Sexual Violence Against ChildrenMay 2023
- Finding Belonging in Singleness (Greg Coles Interview Pt. 2)May 2023
- Single, Gay, and Christian (Greg Coles Interview Pt. 1)May 2023
- Sheila Wray Gregoire on the Lies We’ve Been Taught about Sex & How to Recover What God IntendedMay 2023
- Social Work as an Act of Justice w/ Lowell HerschbergerApril 2023
- Why Should the Church Care about Racial/Cultural Issues? (Keeshon Washington)December 2022
- Is It Dangerous to Get Married Young?June 2022
- What Overturning Roe Means for ChristiansMay 2022
- How Can Christians Disagree in Love on Social Media? (Seth Richey)May 2022
- Walking with Others As They Deconstruct (Christopher Witmer)April 2022
- Jesus Tore Down Walls of Ethnic Division and OppressionApril 2022
- How Christians Should Process CRT: Responding to QuestionsApril 2022
- How Should Christians Think about Same-Sex Attraction? (w/ Abram Martin & Darnell Rohrer)February 2022
- Faith, Ministry, and Sexuality: What an Unlikely Friendship Taught Me about Them (w/ Luci Kinsinger)February 2022
- An Evaluation of the Church and Its Singles w/ Emily Smucker, Abram Martin, Kimberly Kirtz, and Chris WitmerDecember 2020
- Understanding Racial Tensions As a Church (w/ Dave & Gert Slabach)November 2020
- Dr. John Waldron on COVID-19, Masking, and ScienceOctober 2020
- Daniel and June Pollard on Racial ReconciliationOctober 2020
- Should Christians Vote? (w/ Dan Ziegler, Josh Good, and Matthew Milioni)October 2020
- Episode #012: Why Conversations on Racism Matter (with Keeshon Washington)April 2020
- Episode #010: What is a Menno to do when there are no healthy Menno churches to attend?March 2020
- Episode #006: Keeshon Washington on Anabaptists and City MissionsNovember 2019
- Episode #005: Does Jesus Love Homosexuals?October 2019
- Unfeigned Christianity, Episode 003: Stop Blaming Women! A Conversation with Merle Burkholder on Sexual SinAugust 2019
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